The World Cup is well and truly under way right now. Those of us with an interest continue to watch these final first round matches with interest. For me they present an opportunity to study peoples reactions to various dissappointments that they have to face. Its interesting the way we all seem to focus on what could have been instead of what actually is. This is a problem that extends to our lives meaning that we cannot plan for the future properly because we use our past wishes and regrets as the basis for the plan. What do I mean by this?
Emakhosini people consult because they are unhappy at home/work. When one discusses with them their reasons for this, you hear a lot of detail about all the plans that they had which did not work out. This person is clearly still stuck in the past instead of looking at where they are now and how to then take things forward.
A lost love or lost opportunity need to be let go of. We need to maybe look at the reasons that the loss occured and then put plans in place to bring a new opportunity or vision into being. If this plan is based on the plans made for getting the lost love or opportunity, they will have the same fate. We need to plan based on the current position and not on what we have no idea of.
How is this relevant for us who believe eMadlozini? Well, how effective is your communication method with your ancestors? How effective is this communication with your family especially if there are actions which must be taken by the whole family and not just one person?
How effectively do you do what needs to be done? Is it half heartedly or just to get someone to stop nagging you? If any of these are true for you, then your plans will fail because you are not invested in them. Most importantly, your actions and conduct every day should not be the weapon that is eventually used against you. You should be your own defender and not the one who says and does things which contribute to your own downfall and weaknesses in the family.
Its easy to say that Idlozi is facing against the family when everyone is doing badly and is dying. But in Idlozi's defence, we make it easy by not going to school and also not living a life that is protective of us. Do the right thing for your life and it should be easier to get the right results. Do the things which are destructive in your life and you also make it easy for destruction to be in your life.
Yebo, siphetwe amadlozi! But we make their jobs easier or harder by our very own daily conduct.
As for Bafana Bafana, it helps not to dwell on how they could have done, we need to see how they did do and compare this with the initial plan that was put into place. Analyse why they did as they did and replicate the parts that worked and change the aspects that did not work. This is the same with our lives.
Review where you are against where you planned to be on a regular basis. Communicate with all those who have an influence on your life so that the plan is known by all who should be subscribing to it. Idlozi is there to protect and assist you after all.
